My Social Media Detox

Do you find yourself constantly refreshing your social media pages waiting for people to like, favorite, retweet your posts? Can’t sit for 30 minutes without checking your Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, etc.? Do you feel anxious if people don’t like, favorite, or tweet your posts? If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, then you might be addicted to social media. I, for example, answered ‘yes’ to all of these questions and that’s why I am going on a Social Media Detox.


How do i do a social media detox?

What constitutes a Social Media Detox? Well, let me list what I’m doing for my detox:

  • writing a post on all my social media pages, letting each one know that I will be taking a break and that if you need to contact me you can reach me by text or phone call
  • deleting all social media apps from my smart phone (Snapchat, Facebook, Facebook messenger, Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, Yik Yak)
  • deactivating my Facebook until further notice
  • deactivating my Twitter (can be brought back if you login within 30 days)
  • keeping my SelfControl computer application on 24/7 so that I don’t go on the social media websites that I can’t temporarily deactivate

Why I Chose To Take A Social Media Detox

Frankly, I created a toxic relationship with social media. It was an ego boost for me to see someone like/favorite/retweet my posts. I would obsessively look at the people who watched my Snapchat snapstory, refresh Facebook or Twitter to see if anyone new liked my posts, delete Instagram pictures if they didn’t get enough favorites. None of these behaviors were healthy for my mental health or self-esteem in general. All of these behaviors distracted me from my life. Sure, I needed to live my life to have things to post about, but it’s not the same as enjoying an activity just for the sake of enjoying it. I realized that maybe it’s funny every once and a while to say “do it for the Insta”, but if you’re only doing an activity just to post it on social media, then the activity loses its true integrity.

I found that I no longer studied, worked out, or did anything I enjoyed anymore. I was too busy scrolling through Facebook, looking at everyone’s Halloweekend pictures, or mindlessly scrolling through Pinterest. I thought these things were a relaxing way to take my mind off school and personal struggles in my life, but I found that I just neglected my schooling and mental health with these distractions instead. When my unhappiness peaked, I knew I needed to do something about it.

I came to the conclusion to take a break from social media when my mother made a comment about it during our weekly phone call (Yes, I do call my mother weekly, just like you should too. She pushed a watermelon-sized-you out of her vagina. Appreciate her, at least, for that). She pointed out how unhealthy it must be to always know what everyone else is doing and have everyone always knows what you’re doing, that it must be stressful. And, you know what? She was right. I lost my sense of privacy, I wasn’t taking time for myself, and I spent all my time vicariously living life through other people’s lives, pictures, and thoughts. So, taking a break from social media gives me the time to take care of myself, live life mindfully, focus on my own passions, and finally finish that essay that was due three days ago (oops).


 

STUGGLES OF A SOCIAL MEDIA DETOX

You don’t realize how hard going on a Social Media Detox is until you try, or at least how hard it was for me. Here are some things I’ve experienced just after 2 days:

  • Unsure of where to put my thoughts because I can’t tweet them
  • Getting irritated that I can’t post articles I find online on my Facebook page
  • Not knowing what to do when I sit at the bus stop because I can’t scroll through Instagram
  • Realizing that the only way I can vent my feelings is through journaling or talking to a friend because I can’t post them on Twitter or Tumblr
  • When I’m with my friend who’s also addicted to social media and they’re on their phone, I’m forced to just stare at the wall while they scroll through social media
  • It took more effort to actually call or text my friends instead of just instantly messaging them
  • Having an excess amount of time to be in my head with my thoughts because I’m not scrolling through social media
  • Overall anxiety about not being able to check my social media, basically FOMO
  • Forced to actually deal with the things I’ve been pushing aside

Honestly, this hasn’t been easy for me and that’s how I know this is good for me. Detoxes are never easy. If you’ve ever done a nutritional detox, you’ll know how hard it is to give up that nightly glass of wine or the constant snacking. But in the end, you know that detox made you a healthier, happier person. Well, that’s what I need to keep in mind while on my Social Media Detox. In the end, I’m going to have a healthier, happier relationship with myself and social media.


I’m currently having a hard time with a few things in my life right now, but I’m working on them, so no need to worry. Taking a Social Media Detox was something that I needed to support me in my journey. But you don’t need to be struggling with anything in your life to take a Social Media Detox! Anyone can benefit from taking a little R&R from the digital world and technology. Maybe you want to focus on reading a book that’s been on your shelf for months or you want to spend more time with the people you love. Whatever your motive may be, just do it. Take that time you would spend scrolling through Facebook on yourself!

Have a lovely rest of your day!

Peace and love,

Amanda

 

College Stress Sucks Eggs

GRUMPYou’re a college kid, so you’re bound to get stressed every once in a while or basically all the time. Maybe you have two midterms this week, you’ve got a huge paper due tomorrow, there’s a Mt. Everest of dishes in your sink, and you can’t seem to find a pair of matching socks to save your life because you haven’t done laundry in weeks. Or maybe it’s just Monday tomorrow and Mondays suck. Well, you’re not alone. All college students go through these motions. The great thing about stress is that there are ways to manage it!

The first step in stress management, in my opinion, is to acknowledge your feelings. Sometimes stress can be an accumulation of feelings. Are you overwhelmed with the amount of things you have to do, are you frustrated that your exam got moved to an earlier date, are you sad because of a breakup? There’s this assumption that in college you will be happy and healthy the entire time you’re in classes, but in reality, life happens, and not everything is rainbows and unicorns. Sometimes you just need to take it one day at a time, and that’s completely okay. Here are some things you can do to improve your day and reduce stress:

  1. Meditate – The best way you can start your day is by sitting down and meditating. Some people think of it as a very hippy-dippy thing to do, but trust me when I say it’s worth a try. You don’t need to have dreadlocks, wear a tie-dye t-shirt, and go barefoot to get the full experience of meditation. If you’re new to meditation, start by meditating for 10 minutes and gradually move up to 20 minutes. Meditation has been proven to lower blood pressure, wake you up, make you be a better driver, and last longer in bed (hehe). I’ve listed some great references to support you in your journey into the zen life:
  2. Make yourself a nice breakfast to treat yo’ self – But I don’t just mean eat a nice breakfast, I want you to experience your breakfast. Put your gluten free 2-ingredient pancake on the nicest plate you have (even if it’s just stolen from your dorm’s dinning hall oops), take slow mindful bites of your breakfast to really taste your food, and sit down while you’re eating. You start your day on a high note when you’re fully nourished.
  3. Journal – Sometimes writing everything down is all you need to clear your head. You physically take everything fogging up that big brain of yours and put it down on paper. I don’t know if there’s any science behind this, but there should be because it’s a miracle medicine for figuring out your shit. I like to start with writing down all the things I’ve done that day and usually my mind progresses to other things like how fucking annoying Becky was that day (just kidding, I don’t know anyone named Becky. If I did, not to be prejudice against all the Beckys out there, but I bet she’d be really annoying). If you can’t think of anything you did that day, or you just laid in bed all day and ate cereal out of the box because life, write a nice list of all the things you are grateful for in this big, disastrously beautiful world of ours or write about the last time you laughed really hard. Trust me, it will put a smile on your face. 
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    [fresh mint tea]
  4. Make a HUGE cup of tea (emphasis on the huge) – Tea is my life. Sometimes I think it would be more efficient for my body to flow tea through my veins instead of blood, but then I realize that would probably kill me because science blah blah. Anyways, tea stands to be my biggest go-to for when I’m stressed. There are studies that show that holding a cup of tea gives you the same oxytocin release that you get from receiving a hug. Oxytocin is the lovey-dovey hormone that combats the stress hormone cortisol. So if you’re stressed, just hold a warm cup of tea in your hands and let the coziness effect set in. Here are a few teas I’ve tried that directly address stress:
    • St. Johns Wort – The first time I ever had this tea, my mother gave it to me. I was PMSing like there was an apocalypse occurring on Earth and I had stubbed my toe all at once, so she handed a tea bag to me of St. Johns Wort. She stated, “Drink this, it’s what menopausal women drink”. So I may not be going through menopause, but it sure did calm me down. [disclaimer – not recommended to anyone taking birth control or any other form of hormonal medication. This tea is meant for balancing hormones and that’s the opposite of what you want when you’re taking birth control or hormonal medication. Please don’t risk getting pregnant just to de-stress]
    • Holy Basil – This natural antidepressant is great when you have long term stress or depression. It may take a few cups over a couple weeks for the effect to set in, but drinking a cup is extremely worth it. If you’re feeling fancy, you can get it in a tincture from your local health store to add to your smoothie bowls.
    • Chamomile or Mint – These teas are your classic teas for de-stressing. They can be found at any grocery store in the tea isle. These teas are perfect for right before bed, when you want something to soothe you to sleep.
  5. Lovely Sunshine and Endorphins – Even if the only energy you can muster up is to just walk around the block, do it. We underestimate how important it is to get your daily vitamin D. According to a Scientific American article, three-quarters of United States is deficient in vitamin D. Just a week after I started taking a vitamin D supplement, I started to feel happier and healthier. So, getting your vitamin D, while getting in some light exercise can significantly lower your stress-levels. I swear if I didn’t get my daily dose of endorphins, I would be a mess. Getting in exercise in the morning is great if you want a little extra energy for that day. I know, I know, you’re thinking, “How can feeling like death will working out energize you?!”. Well, if your body is working properly, it does.
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    [Dear Mother, it’s actually grape juice I swear]
  6. Bubble Bath time – Okay, if all was right in the world there wouldn’t be a severe drought in California and we would all own claw-footed bath tubs, but sadly this dream of mine has yet to become a reality. If you live in an area where water scarcity is not an issue and you luckily own a bathtub, then I recommend you take a long, warm bath filled with chamomile, epsom salts (very inexpensive at most grocery stores), and any essential oil of your choosing (mine is eucalyptus, because lavender can be a skin irritant). Make sure to stay hydrated while taking an a bath with epsom salts because epsom salts will detox and dehydrate your body. We don’t want any of y’all passing out from dehydration mid-bathtime. Now, if you don’t own a bathtub and you live in an area concerned with water scarcity in the United States, taking a short, hot shower will work almost as well. And if you’re a college student in the midst of midterms or finals and you maybe haven’t showered in a couple days, a warm shower will do you well. Hang some eucalyptus on your shower head or put a couple drops of your favorite essential oil on your shower floor to give you some calming, steamy aromatherapy.
  7. Therapists are AWESOME – On a serious note, sometimes de-stressing takes a little more than drinking a cup of tea and meditating. Sometimes you need a little extra help, and there is nothing wrong with that. Let me repeat myself: There. Is. Nothing. Wrong. With. Needing. Help. There is a stigma in our society that says that seeing a therapist means you’re “broken”, “crazy”, or “weak”, but those things are completely untrue. Going to see a therapist is one of the most put-together, mature, strong things you can do for yourself. In my humble opinion, I think everyone should see a therapist at least once in their life. When you get to know anyone below surface level, you’ll learn that nobody’s perfect. Unless you have an awesome friend that will listen to you with their complete, undivided attention, for a whole hour, unbiased about anything you say, it helps to see a therapist. Luckily, most college campus’ health centers have someone you can talk to for free for a certain number of sessions. If this sounds appealing to you, then I recommend you stop by your campus’ health center soon. Trust me when I say it’s worth it.

I hope these tips helped a little bit so this tweet doesn’t have to describe you anymore!

TWEET COLLEGE STUDENT STRESS

Remember to treat yourself right because you are a strong human being full of so much potential and don’t let anything, anyone, including yourself tell you otherwise!

Peace,

Amanda